Hi everyone! This week’s readings made me think a lot about my life and my own marriage. My wife and I have been married for two years and we dated for a year and a half before that. We don’t love the same exact things. I love playing sports, hiking, and being outside. She loves watching movies, playing games, and spending time with family. We don’t share the exact same passions but that’s okay. We will do things that the other person likes to do because it shows the other that we are willing to get out of our comfort zone and do something different. Since we have done that, our viewpoints have changed. She has started to like camping, hiking, and occasionally playing sports with me. I will play more games and watch the TV shows that she likes. This wouldn’t have happened if we were both stubborn and stuck in our daily routines.
Besides us being attracted to each other when we first started dating, there was a way bigger connection than that. We talked about our dreams, goals, views on life, family, things we struggle with, and things we want to achieve in life. What connected us was as a much larger purpose. We both want to have a family, we want to help people around us, we are willing to learn, and we want to live the gospel and do the right thing. We have set goals that we want to reach together both financially, spiritually, and in life. We want to help push each other towards those goals and achieve a lot as a couple.
There was a quote from Gottman’s Seven Principles book that went perfectly with this. It said, “The goal shouldn’t be to agree on every aspect of what is profoundly meaningful to you, but to have a marriage where you are both open to each other’s most dearly held beliefs. The more you create a marriage where these convictions can be readily divulged, the more joyous will be the journey through life that you share.”
How do we work on our convictions in our marriage to help us on our journey together in life?
I saw a sign recently that said,
“3 ways to fail at everything in life:
1. Complain about everything
2. Blame others for your problems
3. Never be grateful”
What I learned from this is in order for our marriage to be successful we should have a positive attitude, look at inward and see ways you can improve, and find things that you are grateful for every day. My marriage isn’t perfect, but I know that these things can help. I’m grateful for my wife and things that she’s taught me. I’m excited to learn and grow together on our journey in life.
What are some ways you think you can grown in your conviction of your own marriage or relationship?
Happy Wife, Happy Life 